“If I only asked...” is something that pops in my mind on occasion. Usually it involves a new or strange situation I am in where I could use some advice, and the advice I am seeking is from someone who is no longer alive. If I only asked my Mom this, or my Auntie that... you get the idea. On occasion I even think of what a past leader – government or business – would think of current affairs and how they would react to them. In some cases we can derive information from their writings during their time, if they exist.

As I perused the pages of A Father’s Legacy, I thought of these very queries. What questions would my children or anyone after I left this mortal coil have of me, if they did have any? You see, A Father’s Legacy is a journal of writing prompts for a father that would ideally be passed down to future generations. It was given to me by my favorite Mother-in-Law when my first child was born, but it sat mostly untouched over the years and moves. I only finished it this summer around the time said child got their drivers license, so you can guess how diligent I was to it.

Can someone have takeaways from a mostly blank book? Certainly!

It’s very, very Hallmark – The book was purchased at a Hallmark store, and the prompts are in a style taken right off the greeting cards they are known for. There’s an assumption that I am the father of an idyllic nuclear family – think the Cleavers of Leave it to Beaver (if that means anything to you) – and the child of an idyllic nuclear family and that all is perfect in the world. The prompts are all very positive, even those that ask about “tough” times in life. I recall in my writings I had in some instances challenged or altered the prompts to better suit my own reality. Of course I say this with no disrespect to any friends who have made a good living working for said card conglomerate.

One Prompt at a Time – When I got this I thought I would just sit down and do a Vulcan mind meld into the pages of A Father’s Legacy, but that was far from the case. Even with said softball prompts, it is sometimes hard to put down all of one’s thoughts and feelings, especially if you are not in the right mindset. So I took it one at a time. Some writings went beyond the space allocated and others were a sentence or 2. I started from the beginning however over time I was jumping around for whatever I thought would be easy to respond to. In order to finish it started from the beginning and completed those I left blank for whatever reason. Another thing I did on my own was note the date that I scribed my responses.

Proud of my accomplishment – When I finished the last prompt response, I felt good that I completed this endeavor. That being said, I was not proud enough to go back and re-read or edit it, as I felt that what I wrote will stand on its own.

This is not the first time I completed a writing prompt book, as List Your Self and even 1 Page at a Time were similar, insightful journeys into my life. Where I still have the former, I misplaced the latter at some point over the years. I plan to also hold on A Father’s Journey. I am contemplating breaking the binding of both books and scanning them to preserve them digitally as well in paper format.

I highly recommend taking on such a writing journey, whether it’s with this prompt book or a similar one – I actually had another one of these journals still blank and sent it to a friend recently, and upon random perusal of journals in stores there are similar ones for fathers, mothers and almost anyone for that matter. Where I am not sure if you can still get A Father’s Journey in a store, I have seen copies of it online, even in e-book format. Whether or not your own life story will be eagerly sought out in future generations, completing this journal was overall a positive reflective process on my life thus far, and could be for you too. In the spirit of the holidays, it would make a great gift for someone or perhaps yourself.

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Prior to my last post, it had been almost 2 months since I shared my thoughts here on this humble blog, and the response from you my dear readers was overwhelming. Overwhelmingly non-existent, but I digress. With the volume of email we all get, not to forget RSS feeds for some as well, I am sure my musings may have taken a backseat to everything else going on in the world.

What was the reason for this? I’ve recently gotten a little busier than the typical busy that my life is. So what am I doing? I was recently elected the president of my kids high school sports Booster Club.

The Booster Club is a 501(c)3 non-profit organization that is independent of the school yet tied to it by its charter. I’ve been involved for the last two years, helping with the Web site and starting an email newsletter. As I realized these could be handled by more creative and marketing focused-people plus an opening for this leadership position, I decided to jump in, of course with my wife’s blessing.

When I told people what I was doing this I got a variety of reactions, everything from, “congratudolences” to why on earth would I want to do that. To that end I am able to sum up my reasons in one word: impact.

In this election year here in the US, I’ve repeatedly heard a phrase familiar to me over the years attributed to the late historian James Bryce regarding someone taking on a top leadership position: the presidency is open to anyone who has the audacity to believe they can do it. Even for a position like the president of a Booster Club I think you have to believe similarly. Yes, I can take on this leadership role and yes, I can fulfill it to the best of my abilities. For me that was a big part of it, but equally important is it’s helping me fulfill something in missing in my life, in having a leadership position that I don’t quite have elsewhere.

Similar Yet Different

When I put my hat in the ring I knew a little of what I was getting into as I’ve had leadership roles in non-profit organizations in the past. Most notably in the early 2000s I was president of the Boston Jaycees, a member-run leadership organization that was affiliated with a larger US-based and international society. The Boston chapter had just under 100 members and all the challenges you think you’d have with an organization of young people trying to make a difference in their community. Our greatest one was recruiting new members. People would have to commit not only a membership dues but also to being involved as we were volunteer-run; we needed people to be active and run projects, ideally creating a base that would be the future leadership of the chapter. I recall from that time period someone telling me that your job as a leader to find your successor, something that is in the back of my mind as I commence this new role.

Impact to me is two-fold. First there’s the organization’s impact on the community. In this case the Booster Club serves the high school athletic programs with equipment and funds from the money we raise from donations and concession sales. Then there’s the personal impact. This is satisfaction from the good I and all the others involved do in growing our Booster Club and in the support we provide. It’s that personal pride from a job well done and overcoming challenges.

That part about growing the Booster Club is something that’s not entirely new to me, and probably even greater than it was the last time I encountered it. Back in the late 90s and early 2000 with the Jaycees, we were competing for the time of young adults against them staying home, watching cable TV and playing video games. If they actually did something, many would want minimal commitment. The Booster Club audience is grown adults who have very active children participating in sports, academics and other activities and sometimes the last thing those parents want to do is work in a concession stand slinging burgers and hot dogs, let alone take a leadership or other role in the club.

Back to the personal impact, back when I was the Jaycees president I would occasionally hear snarky comments that I was in it to stroke my own ego. Sure, to say that you’re the “president” of something can boost one a bit, but it is a healthy reminder as well that in order to fulfill the position you have to rise up. You have to be a better person than you are and sometimes you got a bear the brunt of things that you may not think you should in order to ensure progress, whether it’s lending a hand in different areas, having tough conversations with people and putting new, bold initiatives out there.

As I reflect on just the past few months I’ve been at the helm of the Booster Club it’s so far so good, but there’s much to do. Hopefully it’s won’t continue to curtail my blogging or other activities that I enjoy.

Deconstructing Stepping Up to Volunteer Leadership

I’ve often said there’s never a best time for anything and this is true whether it’s volunteering leadership or making a difference in an organization. For myself, even though I’ve been through this before, I’ve always enjoyed it and I’m looking forward to this new role with new people and opportunities before me and the opportunity to make an impact in the community and myself.

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Personally, I have never been one who goes by first impressions – sure, they are important, but the experience of the initial contact with someone shouldn’t determine the terms of a relationship. However, if by, say, day 100 you still have issues with someone, then there may be a larger issue, but I digress. That’s also not to say you shouldn’t start strong either.

This concept of first impressions came to mind when listening to an episode of a popular Agile and Scrum podcast the Software Process and Measurement podcast, or Sp&mcast. The host, Tom Cagley, someone I have learned a lot from by taking training led by him, posed a question to his guest from a listener who asked about what they would do on their first day as a newly-certified Scrum Master. My excitement to hear the guest’s thoughts quickly faded as their answer didn’t help channel the listener’s recent “drinking from the firehose” introduction to Scrum, and if anything made it worse.

Realizing the guest missed the mark on the question, I asked myself, “Self, what would you do on day one as a Scrum Master?” I pondered this for a long while, taking into consideration my own training and certifications as both a Scrum Master and Scrum Product Owner plus hours of reading, listening and discussions on the discipline. I then wrote up these thoughts and send them to the Tom. Upon recently rediscovering that email, I share my 4-step agenda for that day here. Where I have tweaked some of the content, my initial approach and intent persists.

Let The Day Begin

The first thing I would do is sit down with my new reporting manager and be honest, saying, “Manager, I just finished this Scrum Master training, have all of this knowledge and now I have to learn how to use it.” I would give an analogy of taking a woodworking course: learned a lot, got a lot of tools and now I have to really learn how to use them on my own. I may not be able to build elegant, high-end cabinets from the start, but I plan to soon build something to hang on the wall to store things.

Up second is to become aware of any and all artifacts as part of the project (if there are any, but I will assume there are some). I said “become aware” as I would not read through in painstaking detail every user story right away, but I would want to know 1) if there are any and 2) where they are. Becoming aware of what exists will help with future steps.

Next it’s time to schedule the ceremonies – sprint planning, kick-off, daily Scrums, review, retrospective – if they already aren’t in place. If they are already in place, I would “take them over” by ensuring meeting invites were coming from me and I was scheduling them.

Finally in the first daily Scrum, I would let everyone know I will be scheduling individual meetings with everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, to make an introduction and start to get to know them. Whether in-person or virtual, I would like to get ahead of getting to know them. If in person, I will buy them a (insert favorite beverage here) or lunch. These meetings would be with everyone – the Product Owner, Dev Team, and people who are outside of the Scrum team but are related, including stakeholders, leadership, users, customers, janitors, et. al.! I have always found getting to know someone, especially in person, in advance of any issues is always best.

It's Good to Dream

As I revisit this, I realize I may never actually put this plan into action. Where it has been almost 5 years since I started on my “Agile journey” it has been mostly a trip in virtual reality. The catalyst for this was the directive at my job to become an Agile organization, so I went all-in. Perhaps it’s luck, fate or some other term I don’t need to dwell on now, but I have never truly put my own course of study into action in the role of a Scrum Master. And at this point with my evolving job, I may not have that opportunity. Though one should never say never, what I have learned is still valuable to me and I don’t have any reservations on my career journey.

Deconstructing Becoming a Scrum Master

Every journey begins – and continues – with one step. Starting out on the right foot, stable and strong, all the while managing each step as best as possible, helps you and your team succeed. This is especially important for Scrum Masters, especially as they have come under higher industry scrutiny as of late. Where I myself may not execute this plan, I put it out there for others to consider, and I welcome feedback as to how it worked for them.

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They say you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover, but what about by its title? When I recently learned about the book Younger Next Year I was clearly intrigued. With all going on in my own life with my health, I just had to take a look at this book. So I bought a copy and made it a priority to read it cover-to-cover.

The copy I acquired was the latest version of Younger Next Year, which was the 15th anniversary edition (clearly I was late to the game on this book and its universe, but I digress). It was written by patient/doctor duo Chris Crowley and Dr. Henry Lodge, and new to this edition were passages on brain health by neurosurgeon Dr. Alan Hamilton.

Younger Next Year is a book geared for men by men, talking about being men getting older. It’s written in a conversational style one would expect from guys talking to each other while sitting in the stands at game or at a local watering hole. Chapters alternate between Crowley and Dr. Lodge, where the former talks in more general terms and the latter provides the medical wisdom and science behind the former. Right out of the gate this format worked for me.

So was Younger Next Year all style and no substance? Hardly, as you can see from a paired down list of my key takeaways from it.

Workout Hard 6 Days a Week – This is pounded through the book, and when not directly stated over and over again it is implied. We not only need to keep moving, but moving to the point we are sweating, gaining muscle, keeping flexible and so on. It’s something I knew as our bodies, which really haven’t evolved much since the caveman and cavewoman days, are not designed to be sedentary. Where I know I need to do this more often, I wish I could. To aid the effort I joined a gym. After a good start I have not kept it up… he types as guilt falls over him.

What We Eat Is Equally Important – This is something I have known and been practicing for years and especially in the last one. You can’t purely exercise weight off. Garbage-in, garbage-out as we say in the computer world applies to our bodies and we’re soaking in ultra-processed, over-engineered stuff to consume that is passed off with clever marketing as food. By eating real food and intermittent fasting I have lost 60 pounds in the last year. As my fellow New Englander Robert Frost said, “… and miles to go before I sleep” and I do have much more to lose. In the meantime I am going to enjoy the extra room I have in an airplane seat among other benefits.

You Can’t Do It Alone – We are warm-blooded animals that have a limbic brain. When I the authors say alone they don’t just mean being with a partner but close friends and acquaintances as well. I would add to this the “right” doctor that truly is going to help you on your journey. The reality there is whatever doctor is likely out-of-network from your health insurance.

Aging vs. Decaying – Where the former will just happen, something can be done about the latter. Each of these is often mistaken for the other. By following the advice in the book, where you will get older, could your body actually get younger?

The only thing I didn’t like about Younger Next Year is that it could get a little too repetitive. However I get it – they are trying to drive home a point, and it did not distract me from enjoying this book. I highly recommend Younger Next Year for anyone Gen X and older, as well as those just behind us as they will be here sooner than they think. There’s also a woman’s version of the book, and I am interested if any of my female readers read a copy of it.

As for whom I am giving this book to, it is going to a good friend who is not too far behind me in years and should know well about the idea of vigorous exercise. It will be good timing to send to him as he has been getting self-reflective lately.

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So I have more five dollar bills in my wallet these days.

Why? The genesis for this was not having smaller bills on me and as a result costing me more than I hoped when tipping on a recent trip to Chicago. I was staying at a nicer hotel and at almost every turn there was someone to tip. As most ATMs today just give $20 dollar bills, that was all I had. Needless to say it made me look like a really generous guy.

Inflation Hits Gratuity

With the prices of everything going up over the last several years, restaurants have not been immune from this. It is evident in not only the menu prices being higher, but the suggestions for what to tip the wait staff are right up there too. You know those “tipping tables” you see at the bottom of your bill, the ones that list percentages and the dollar amounts to make it “easier” for you to tip? In the past they would likely offer 15% and 20%, and maybe sometimes 25%. These days I am seeing them starting at 18% and sometimes going as high as 30%! That, and more restaurants are automatically adding a tip on parties larger than 4 plus that tipping table too. Clearly restaurant staff are being hit by inflation like the rest of this, and with the overall check being higher, many diners are likely not tipping as they used to.

Thus I started carrying fives on me. Doing so was made easier by my new bank’s ATMs offering $5 bills along with $20 and even $1 bills – it also offers $100 bills as well and, though a popular thing to carry on you in Wisconsin I pass on those, but I digress. It allows me to tip appropriately, as well as not look too cheap by handing someone simply a one-dollar bill.

Making It Real

Carrying more cash on me has been something I have actually been doing for a while. From every expense you make being tracked to ginormous bank statements listing those very transactions to having had a few attempts of hacking of my bank accounts in recent years, by using cash more reduces all of this. Not to mention some merchants are passing along to their customers their credit card fees. Several local gas stations are offering cash prices up to 5 cents off a gallon. With filling up 2 cars every week, this adds up quickly, and I’ll take the reduced cost of anything anywhere I can. Even though the stands at the farmers market take cards and accept payments from mobile apps like Venmo, they are always appreciative to take old-fashioned fiat currency.

Deconstructing Carrying Fives

When it comes to inflation we often feel powerless to merely succumbing to it. By carrying five dollar bills on me it is attempt to counter this wave. Seeing cash actually leaving your wallet makes you think about what you are doing with that money, more than a piece of plastic or QR code ever will. By placing a bill in a tip jar or someone’s hand makes the acknowledgement of gratuity more real. One $5 is easier than fishing a couple of ones from your wallet and makes a little more generous statement without going over the top.

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