“If I only asked...” is something that pops in my mind on occasion. Usually it involves a new or strange situation I am in where I could use some advice, and the advice I am seeking is from someone who is no longer alive. If I only asked my Mom this, or my Auntie that... you get the idea. On occasion I even think of what a past leader – government or business – would think of current affairs and how they would react to them. In some cases we can derive information from their writings during their time, if they exist.

As I perused the pages of A Father’s Legacy, I thought of these very queries. What questions would my children or anyone after I left this mortal coil have of me, if they did have any? You see, A Father’s Legacy is a journal of writing prompts for a father that would ideally be passed down to future generations. It was given to me by my favorite Mother-in-Law when my first child was born, but it sat mostly untouched over the years and moves. I only finished it this summer around the time said child got their drivers license, so you can guess how diligent I was to it.

Can someone have takeaways from a mostly blank book? Certainly!

It’s very, very Hallmark – The book was purchased at a Hallmark store, and the prompts are in a style taken right off the greeting cards they are known for. There’s an assumption that I am the father of an idyllic nuclear family – think the Cleavers of Leave it to Beaver (if that means anything to you) – and the child of an idyllic nuclear family and that all is perfect in the world. The prompts are all very positive, even those that ask about “tough” times in life. I recall in my writings I had in some instances challenged or altered the prompts to better suit my own reality. Of course I say this with no disrespect to any friends who have made a good living working for said card conglomerate.

One Prompt at a Time – When I got this I thought I would just sit down and do a Vulcan mind meld into the pages of A Father’s Legacy, but that was far from the case. Even with said softball prompts, it is sometimes hard to put down all of one’s thoughts and feelings, especially if you are not in the right mindset. So I took it one at a time. Some writings went beyond the space allocated and others were a sentence or 2. I started from the beginning however over time I was jumping around for whatever I thought would be easy to respond to. In order to finish it started from the beginning and completed those I left blank for whatever reason. Another thing I did on my own was note the date that I scribed my responses.

Proud of my accomplishment – When I finished the last prompt response, I felt good that I completed this endeavor. That being said, I was not proud enough to go back and re-read or edit it, as I felt that what I wrote will stand on its own.

This is not the first time I completed a writing prompt book, as List Your Self and even 1 Page at a Time were similar, insightful journeys into my life. Where I still have the former, I misplaced the latter at some point over the years. I plan to also hold on A Father’s Journey. I am contemplating breaking the binding of both books and scanning them to preserve them digitally as well in paper format.

I highly recommend taking on such a writing journey, whether it’s with this prompt book or a similar one – I actually had another one of these journals still blank and sent it to a friend recently, and upon random perusal of journals in stores there are similar ones for fathers, mothers and almost anyone for that matter. Where I am not sure if you can still get A Father’s Journey in a store, I have seen copies of it online, even in e-book format. Whether or not your own life story will be eagerly sought out in future generations, completing this journal was overall a positive reflective process on my life thus far, and could be for you too. In the spirit of the holidays, it would make a great gift for someone or perhaps yourself.

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They say you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover, but what about by its title? When I recently learned about the book Younger Next Year I was clearly intrigued. With all going on in my own life with my health, I just had to take a look at this book. So I bought a copy and made it a priority to read it cover-to-cover.

The copy I acquired was the latest version of Younger Next Year, which was the 15th anniversary edition (clearly I was late to the game on this book and its universe, but I digress). It was written by patient/doctor duo Chris Crowley and Dr. Henry Lodge, and new to this edition were passages on brain health by neurosurgeon Dr. Alan Hamilton.

Younger Next Year is a book geared for men by men, talking about being men getting older. It’s written in a conversational style one would expect from guys talking to each other while sitting in the stands at game or at a local watering hole. Chapters alternate between Crowley and Dr. Lodge, where the former talks in more general terms and the latter provides the medical wisdom and science behind the former. Right out of the gate this format worked for me.

So was Younger Next Year all style and no substance? Hardly, as you can see from a paired down list of my key takeaways from it.

Workout Hard 6 Days a Week – This is pounded through the book, and when not directly stated over and over again it is implied. We not only need to keep moving, but moving to the point we are sweating, gaining muscle, keeping flexible and so on. It’s something I knew as our bodies, which really haven’t evolved much since the caveman and cavewoman days, are not designed to be sedentary. Where I know I need to do this more often, I wish I could. To aid the effort I joined a gym. After a good start I have not kept it up… he types as guilt falls over him.

What We Eat Is Equally Important – This is something I have known and been practicing for years and especially in the last one. You can’t purely exercise weight off. Garbage-in, garbage-out as we say in the computer world applies to our bodies and we’re soaking in ultra-processed, over-engineered stuff to consume that is passed off with clever marketing as food. By eating real food and intermittent fasting I have lost 60 pounds in the last year. As my fellow New Englander Robert Frost said, “… and miles to go before I sleep” and I do have much more to lose. In the meantime I am going to enjoy the extra room I have in an airplane seat among other benefits.

You Can’t Do It Alone – We are warm-blooded animals that have a limbic brain. When I the authors say alone they don’t just mean being with a partner but close friends and acquaintances as well. I would add to this the “right” doctor that truly is going to help you on your journey. The reality there is whatever doctor is likely out-of-network from your health insurance.

Aging vs. Decaying – Where the former will just happen, something can be done about the latter. Each of these is often mistaken for the other. By following the advice in the book, where you will get older, could your body actually get younger?

The only thing I didn’t like about Younger Next Year is that it could get a little too repetitive. However I get it – they are trying to drive home a point, and it did not distract me from enjoying this book. I highly recommend Younger Next Year for anyone Gen X and older, as well as those just behind us as they will be here sooner than they think. There’s also a woman’s version of the book, and I am interested if any of my female readers read a copy of it.

As for whom I am giving this book to, it is going to a good friend who is not too far behind me in years and should know well about the idea of vigorous exercise. It will be good timing to send to him as he has been getting self-reflective lately.

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You see them everywhere, well at least I do. They are usually together, in a collection on a rack or shelf at a bookstore, department store and always at airport gift shops. The titles are somewhat catchy and who created them are familiar because you have seen them before, even if you don’t have first-hand familiarity with them. If it wasn’t for me getting one of these for Christmas last year. I probably would’ve never entered their world, or at least this soon.

What am I talking about? Where the technical term may be non-fiction novels, I refer to them as “big” novels – stories written by authors who have written many books over the years, and when I mean many I mean in the dozens. Thanks to that gift from my Mother-in-law, I am now proud to say I have read a “big” novel.

My entry into this universe is A Time for Mercy by John Grisham. I was eager to read this because I was always curious to read Grisham, but also because it took an awful lot of room on my already burgeoning bookshelf. It seemed like a good book to take on the road, and when we recently took a family trip – no less on an airline that had no Wi-Fi – this was the perfect opportunity to disconnect from the world and connect with this story.

A Time for Mercy is the fictional tale of a murder case taken on by Jake Brigance, a lawyer in a small Mississippi town in the 1990’s. Grisham himself was a lawyer, I found out afterwards, and this explains its extensive yet enjoyable-to-read detail. So would I have takeaways from such a tale? But of course.

Great storytelling – From the moment of take-off to throughout the trip and to the flight home, I really enjoyed it. This was perfect escape from me and helped me relax while on vacation (I know, me!). There was great storytelling throughout its 400 pages and it was a very compelling read.

Doing the work can make for good reading too – Many times when you take in a story, especially a legal one, it never gets into the grunt work that goes on behind the scenes leading to the main dramatic events. In A Time for Mercy there was sufficient detail of this mundane work woven throughout it. I found it not only important to how the story unfolded but refreshing. Over this same time period my family was binge watching the TV show Suits, which is a perfect example of just the opposite – drama without the detail.

Need to mix in more books from other “big” authors – Fortunately my wife has some of these books on her nightstand so when I get through the myriad on my own bookshelf, I may borrow one or several from her.

A Time for Mercy was an enjoyable read and recommend it to anyone looking for a thematic escape. Even if you are not into legal tales, this tells a good story of those impacted by the case, in and out of the court room. Eager to give this one away due to its size, I sent it to my cousin along with a coffee mug and Starbucks gift card, and my hopes he gets an enjoyable escape when he reads it as I did.

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"You should read Animal Farm..." was advise someone gave me a while back, that someone I now forget who they were. As I am someone who enjoys curling up with paper book - never an eBook - I often get such suggestions. However this one continued with, "... it's a short book, but don't let its size fool you." With a work trip earlier this year, I thought no time like the present to finally tap into this recommendation.

Animal Farm was written by George Orwell and published in 1945, four years before his most famous novel, 1984. It is the story of anthropomorphic animals on a farm who rise up against the humans who run the farm and proceed to take it over. Where I was always aware of the general premise of the story and that there was a cartoon movie made from the book, that was about it. My assumption that I thought it was more of a children's story was debunked quickly as I flew back to the US East Coast absorbing this page-turner of a story.

So what could I possibly takeaway from a book that featured talking pigs and horses?

To Russia with Disdain – The plot of Animal Farm, though satirical, is based on Orwell's perception and objection of Joseph Stalin and the Communist Soviet Union of that era. This was something I first learned of in the introduction of the book and not going into it. Where to some this may be considered a spoiler, it actually helped me frame the actions and behaviors of the farm animals as I traveled across the book’s pages.

Checks and balances – When power is centralized, there is the chance that little can be done to resist or change it. The same can be said for animals that act like people. Interestingly I think about this fact as much today when I read the news as I did when I read Animal Farm and was thinking about the time it was written.

Indoor and Outdoor talk – This concept cane from introduction of the book by author Tea Obreht when she was comparing 1940’s Soviet Union to when she grew up in 1980’s Yugoslavia. It literally refers to how people would talk about topics – mostly politics – differently inside their house and with family as compared to what they shared with others in the outside world. This of course harkens back to the oppressive governments in each of those times and places and how people would be turned in by neighbors for their resistance (or merely suspicion) to the government, usually to their ultimate demise.

Animal Farm is a very creative way to tell a story. Remove the fact that you are reading about farm animals, it is sad tale of human interaction. Add back in the animal element, and you have a tale that starts out jovial and encouraging but quickly turns sour.

I enjoyed reading Animal Farm and I recommend it to anyone as it is a classic with deep meaning. I decided to be in the moment when I finished it and left in the airplane's seat-back pocket, hoping serendipity would prevail and someone would notice and do as I did and read this classic, it’s lines and between them.

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All too often we get swept up in the minutiae of the work day and the next thing we know we are at home, plunked on the couch and say to ourselves, "Self, what the hell happened today?" When we then try to answer the question, we will find what we did was tactical and likely necessary, but was it the best solution or the best we can come up with, not to mention even remotely strategic?

One day being overcome with this feeling I was not being/acting strategic led me on a quest – where I may not be able to affect things surrounding me, I can try my damnedest to affect those in my three-foot world. So I did what anyone these days does when in a conundrum – I did a simple Internet search on the word “strategic.” Near the top of the results page was a link to the new book Strategic: The Skill to Set Direction, Create Advantage, and Achieve Executive Excellence by Rich Horwath. A Chicago-area consultant, he runs the Strategic Thinking Institute and is a speaker and consultant on strategy. From that description alone I felt like I struck gold, so I ordered a copy of the book right away.

When Strategic arrived I put aside the two other books I was simultaneously reading and dug into this, which I felt was a smart and – dare I say – strategic decision on my part. So it comes as no surprise I had a slew of takeaways from the book, and I will summarize some of the top ones here.

What strategic is and isn’t – The book opens with his definition of what strategic is: possessing insight that leads to advantage. Later he goes into details on what it is not: the ABC’s, aspiration, best practices and cautious. As the book flows, the topics discussed are built on these.

Strategy Quotient Assessment – Throughout the book there’s a plethora of models and tools to help you in analysis and decision-making that will lead to insight. One of them is the Strategic Quotient Assessment which is an online survey of 50 statements offered by the Strategic Thinking Institute to determine your strategic quotient, or SQ. As of this writing I have not yet taken it myself, but this assessment that comes with a cost is something I plan to do.

Note to Self: Read The Art of War – Several times in recent weeks I have seen references to this book that is over 2 millennia old and attributed to Chinese military strategist Sun Tzu. One of those was in this book. What’s interesting about these references is that in all cases they were related to business, not war. Needless to say it’s on my summer reading list.

Kill failing projects quickly – A quote in an article from Harvard Business Review on why execution of business strategy unravels in the book stated, and I am paraphrasing, if you decide to kill a failing project, do it right away and quickly.

When I read this I thought of the quote the great triad of Canadian philosophers, “if you choose not to decide you still have made a choice.” This phrase, now over 2 score old, reinforces something I have experienced over my career when leaders cannot decide to stop doing something soon enough, even when armed with the evidence needed to do so.

Don’t skip manager/staff meetings – To say we are overbooked with meetings is an understatement, and when looking to squeeze room into a packed calendar, often standing meetings with staff are canceled. Horwath stresses this should not be the case for a number of reasons that I, as someone who has been on the receiving end of this too often over the decades, completely concurs with. Remember, such one-on-one meetings should not be solely for the benefit of the staff person.

Strategic is a great read and packed with a number of decision-making models, advice and real-world experience from Horwath’s own consulting and coaching career and many well-known companies. Throughout it there are references to articles which are listed in the endnotes, which in itself is a great reading list that can provide you with a wealth of information in itself – I got a lot from the one I mentioned above and several others I read. The only critique I have of Strategic is that it uses business examples from well-known organizations like Amazon, but no names of small or mid-sized businesses, which may be relatable to the average reader. That being said, the points he used to reinforced with said company names were certainly not lost.

To say I recommend Strategic to anyone is a no-brainer. Whether you feel you are already strategic or tactical, a leader or staff worker, this book is for you. Where I typically give away books, this is one I am holding onto. It will be a reference and inspirational guide for myself to reread in part or whole to remind myself of what I need to be doing to not feel like I originally did when I sought out the book. This is also not Horwath’s only book as he has written several other books on strategy, including a strategy graphic novel. After going back in time and reading The Art of War, I may come back to present-day Earth and read some of these others.

Have you read Strategic? Have I inspired you to read it? I welcome your thoughts in the comments of this post.

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