There’s a phrase I see often on the little bit of remaining social media I use – “pictures or it didn’t happen.” It stems from claims that people make in these social channels, and people asking for photographic proof as they don’t believe those claims. However, I am here to say that it’s ok to not always have those pictures.

As I was driving home late last night in the rain from Milwaukee, Wisconsin (about a 1.5 hour ride) I realized I did not get a picture with my cousin whom I went there to meet. He was in the Cream City for a conference, and I wanted to get together with him as he was so close. We met up and went to dinner and had some great beer at a brewpub just next to the new arena downtown and had a nice time. After I dropped him off at his hotel, I got some coffee for the road and headed home.

It was in the process of keeping my mind off of the rain – and on the road – that I realized there was no picture of us; no selfie, and didn’t even ask our friendly waitress to take a picture. It wasn’t that we didn’t have a good time – we talked of the conference he was here for, tech, healthcare, beer, all good. We both had our phones with operating cameras on them, and it wasn’t even that I didn’t take any pictures last night – see above for the huge bowl of cole slaw that came with my brat burger, as I had never seen a serving of cole slaw that large, ever.

This is not the first time I have done something that could be considered a “Kodak moment” and didn’t capture it... yes, I am a Gen Xer and I remember that term well. Being in that age range probably means why I am not always “on” taking pictures, especially with my conscious effort to be on less social media channels and use the ones I am still on less often. Then there is the “management” of these pictures, for lack of a better term. What do you do with all of the photos you take? And what about the ones you may have taken in the dark ages with actual film? My guess is the boxes of photos and albums you have are similar to what I have.

Over the summer my family took a road trip West and went to Mount Rushmore. I was in awe of seeing the mountain carvings in person that I have seen in photos since I was a child. The pictures I took were great, especially with the family, but they didn’t quite match the magnitude and emotion I felt seeing it for myself. For me that’s ok, as I have my memories of that August night to go with those pictures to make for a complete experience.

As I was mulling all of this over in the ride home, I recalled an article by Derek Sivers where he talked about traveling without a smartphone altogether. Where he couldn’t take any pictures or use GPS for maps, he felt he remembered his time more without the device, and what it offered as well as what it could take away from the moment. Where I don’t think I would consciously do this, it at least made me feel better about the one picture I don’t have of the many thousands of pictures I do have.

By the way I highly recommend the cole slaw there; it’s made with red peppers.

Deconstructing Not Taking A Picture

In our constantly-connected world, moments when we are not stand out. If the fact that we weren’t connected didn’t distract from the life experience, then that’s ok. There are other ways to “capture the moment” such as recounting it to others, or even writing a blog post about it.

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This is from The Hot Iron, a journal on business and technology by Mike Maddaloni.

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